Saturday, April 27, 2013

Things That Make Me Go, 'Hmmm'!

     I'm a friendly person. I can strike up a conversation with just about anyone, including drooling babies. But lately, people have been seeking me out just to talk. Maybe I have this expression on my face that says, "Share anything you want; I'm all yours." Today, while waiting in line at Costco, this man engaged me in a conversation and told me that he'd noticed me walking around the store because he thought I looked like his ex-girlfriend. He proceeded to tell me all about his ex. How he took her to Italy...(she went with him as a virgin and came back as a virgin.) He told me that she walked out on him without leaving a note and, get this...even her own mother thought that she was stupid for leaving him. I learned everything about Ms. Ex...she jilted him for a twice divorced man with 4 kids etc...All of this I found out in the course of about 5 minutes.

     A few weeks ago, a man that was standing in line behind me at the grocery store decided to get up in my personal space. (When I can feel and smell your breath, you are way too close.) He was literally talking in my ear. He kept calling me 'baby' and 'sweetheart'. He told me about his views on life- unfair. He talked about his 'old lady' and said, "if 'mama' ain't happy then no one is happy..." I was taught to always be polite so I kept a smile on my face and nodded a lot.  I couldn't wait until it was my turn to check out.

   Then, a few months ago, this lady approached me and started telling me about how she had gotten injured on the job and was fired unfairly. She went on to tell me that she would be going to court soon and asked if I would go with her. I sympathized, nodded my head and told her that I hoped things got better. Finally she said, "Okay, so my friend, I'll see you at the courthouse? You come to my house first, okay?" Not wanting to disappoint, I told her that I would be there.

    I realize that my twin sister and I are a lot like my dad. Although he's a rather quiet man, he talks to everyone. He knows all about the mail man, the meter reader and trash man. He says, "Oh, that's Ben...He's a good guy... been dumping trash for 15 years. His wife is visiting family out of state..." My dad knows people that I never could imagine that he would know. When music mogul, Barry Gordy Sr. was alive he would attend the same church. My father would chat with him before he entered church each Sunday.

     Dad has crossed paths with a lot of unusual people. Even though he doesn't get out as much as he used to, he has 'met' a lot of people; celebrities, athletes and entertainers. My dad knows everybody! If I want to know about Kobe Bryant, my dad will say, "Yeah, Kobe just bought his wife a new house...their kids are attending private school..." About Tiger Woods, my dad says, "That  Tiger isn't looking too good right now...." When I talk to him on the phone, I expect my dad to say, "Hey did you hear about so and so? Yeah, that dummy broke up with his wife..." It's funny but my dad doesn't know these people personally; but he knows all about them. I have no idea how he finds his information, especially since he doesn't have a computer, but he's always in the know.
    
     I'm glad to be like my dad. I believe that every encounter happens for a reason and also believe in divine appointments. When I'm chatting it up with an elderly lady in the store, I feel good knowing that our meeting is a part of His plan. After all, I might be filling a need for someone who is lonely. I may not realize the impact that my passing conversations may have but I do know that I am blessed to share a smile, a laugh or maybe connect with someone who might be in need of a friend

     As weird as it may seem, I also believe that God is present even when we least expect it. We are called to love and respect everyone just as Christ did when He walked this earth. So, I embrace the unexpected grocery store interruptions. Who knows?  My next encounter might actually be God with skin on. Do you chat with people wherever you go? I'd love to hear about it.

    

9 comments:

  1. I do and I don't....I think you sometimes just connect with people. Some times I feel starved for conversation and always talk to check out person I think it's rude to ignore them although most the time they barely say two words. I love how your dad is....but I think you and your sister have energy that just attracts people. It's a gift! Have a wonderful Sunday!

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  2. I believe that every encounter happens for reason too although a few of those were a little weird. I think people can tell the goodness in you so they are not afraid to approach you. My children noticed that when we were out and they were younger. They would say "How come people always come over to you to ask a question?" when we would be standing in a crowd of people. (I'm not tooting my own horn here, just an observation)

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    1. I didn't think you were tooting your own horn. In fact, I thought I was doing that when I wrote this post. I think people tend to be drawn to people that seems outwardly friendly and approachable. It's neat that your kids noticed that people are eager to connect with you as well.

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  3. I think people can tell you're a good listener and a good person, so they open up around you. I had to laugh while reading this because my dad is a lot like yours. He knew everyone and we would always be waiting for him because he would be talking to someone. Now I talk to people and I've had some pretty strange things shared with me. (Because I'm a nurse I get lots of medical stuff) However - I would say you have me beat!

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  4. Yeah, Dad can talk up a dead doorknob as J says. I think we do get it from him...the ability to reach out to others and listen with compassion. I seem to get cornered into conversations all the time. It's pretty interesting information that you can learn just from talking to people.

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    1. Yep...doorknob. Dad may be a quiet man but I know that he has so much wisdom in a simple kind of way. That's the way I see myself. I don't feel polished or secure at times but I remember how people gravitate to Dad although he is quiet. I think it's a gift to be simply spoken.

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  5. You and Simone are so alike even in character! I'm sure you two have the kind of charisma that people are just drawn to at first sight!!



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    1. Thanks. Maybe that's what it is. Yesterday, someone asked me to describe myself and I was at a loss. It's true...Simone and I are a lot alike in character. It's cool that you noticed that.

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